Show the person you respect them enough to say “no” if you don’t think things will actually succeed.
Don’t drag them along just because you like having someone to text and talk to when you get bored.
When I first turned 30, I knew I was entering a decade of high expectations.
For example, evidence shows that simple but straightforward checklists work a lot better than complicated but fuzzy subjective evaluations. Virginia Apgar figured out over breakfast one day that a systematic assessment of five variables of a newborn -- heart rate, respiration, reflex, muscle tone, and color -- and three scores (2, 1 or 0 depending on the robustness of each sign) can determine whether a baby required intervention or not. The checklist clarifies thinking and saves precious time.
The Apgar Score has since been used millions of times and has saved the lives of countless babies. Checklists are such powerful tools that Atul Gawande wrote a whole book about them called .
Sure, I knew it was a milestone age, and I had accomplished most of what I set out to do — except find love.
I still dated while fielding the occasional questions from my peers and elders about why I had to yet to find love.
It’s sad to look around and see the many men and women who are in relationships with people who aren’t fully committed, but continue to keep the relationship going for no reason.