Using intuition in dating

One’s emotions can be helpful in pointing the way toward love—or as unreliable as a broken compass whose needle points in only one direction. Sometimes we can’t pinpoint the reason, but we just have a nagging sense about something or someone.

That’s because lots of things influence our feelings. In your dating decisions, how much credence should you give to these gut feelings?

Or conversely, it may be a way of telling you to pause, think, and reflect on where you are right now, before proceeding ahead willy-nilly into a relationship you'll regret. This is the experience of perfect timing, such as when you're thinking about a song right when you hear it on the radio, or the computer guy you found in the yellow pages turns out to be someone you had a mad crush on in college. Such moments let you know that you're in the flow--in the right place, at the right time. For example, you think of a long-lost boyfriend, and then he sends you an email in that instant.

So tell me, what was the biggest lesson your love life taught you about your intuition – or vice versa? Want to learn to write fast, clear and like a boss?It might be that you’re wrestling with the idea of following a third arrow—which is what you want to do, even if your gut and your brain are assuring you it’s a horrible idea. If this turns out to be the case, that doesn’t mean they’re wrong and you shouldn’t follow them.If this is the case, resist the urge to ignore what your intuition and your brain are telling you. But it might mean you should take them with a grain of salt. Is your fear based on actual danger, or is it fueled by old baggage you’ve yet to unpack and unload? Our intuition is talking to us, but there’s no immediate danger or need for a quick decision, so we give things time to see if future events confirm or recalibrate our instincts.There’s no ironclad answer for every person and every circumstance.But as you’re trying to figure out how to decipher that small inner nudge, here are some important questions to ask yourself: 1. If your intuition and your rational thinking are telling you the same thing, you probably have nothing to worry about.That’s because when all the arrows are pointing the same direction, it’s pretty clear which way to head.

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