As a favour to my dear readers I’ll go into detail on how to set up a good sex chat. Girls know I care about good whiskey and Cuban cigars. What she’s doing in the story sets the frame for how she will act, which part of her character will come out. Ease her into that qualifying frame where you have the value and to have sex. And girls get a spike from hearing about hard dicks. Don’t lose track of the little environmental details that make the story feel real.
Remember that birds don’t think like us and get turned on by different things. How do you want her to feel, how do you want to move things along…. Give her little images that bind her to you specifically, imagining how are not just a random male. It all builds that little world to suck her in and feel right there, next to you. How would this story go differently if I’d said “You have your head buried in a book, something long-winded from Tolstoy”?
The best way to do that is by creating a profile—on Grindr or elsewhere—that clearly describes what you want and what you're up for.
Because good partners (sexual or otherwise) communicate their wants clearly.
I think it’s extremely unlikely that your Skype calls are recorded … I’ll dive into a number of reasons I believe that to be the case.
However, there’s another, potentially more dangerous, scenario that a lot of people overlook.
In September 2005, e Bay acquired Skype for .6 billion.I'm a middle-aged homo trying to figure out Grindr.Is it impolite to go on Grindr if you're not looking for an immediate hookup?Here’s a chat from last night where I had Serb A masturbating. She has no doubts this is a personalised experience so that ups the attraction and rapport. I had in mind the road scene from Fear And Loathing In Las Vegas. This story is about her being wild and horny, chasing me, impressing herself upon me because she wants the sex. While typing I considered having her flash her tits at the drivers but it felt wrong so I toned it down. Picture it in your own mind and then paint a picture with a few brush strokes. Girls get turned on by the psychological interplay and environmental scenario of sex. Not necessarily worse but all the details need to be consistent with where you plan on taking this. If I’d wanted to paint her as timid and nerdy I’d have used the Tolstoy line. Bring her in as a co-creator on the non-essential elements, make her work a little and feel some influence. Future projections always have an element of farce from her. This is telling her which character to play and how to feel. Much different to her pulling out a flask of cold tea (which would subconsciously lead to a relaxed, not hot, vibe). This time I’m playing up her agency, letting her be predator. You are building the emotional linkage now for how you want her to generally feel around you in future.